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Commentary on “Catch a Wave”

“Catch a Wave” by Fred Smith

Dear God, I’ve been intimidated by a bad argument for a long time. Frankly, I’m intimidated by a lot of arguments. There are a lot of times when someone will say something that I find shockingly offensive or inappropriate, but I don’t have a well thought out response to it so I remain silent. Or maybe I don’t want to be confrontational and hurt their feelings–although they didn’t seem to pay much attention to my feelings when they said it in the first place.

In Fred’s blog post that I linked to above, he mentions hearing someone make an argument that is being made in many places around our country and world right now. Social media, frankly, only seems to have made it worse. The quote Fred heard was, “Your community will soon experience the full force of a tsunami of brown, young, unemployed, fertile, sometimes violent, non-English speaking immigrants from the South. It is going to affect every institution and, as it has everywhere else, the economic resources of your city and region.”

I am so tired of this. I’m so tired of the bigotry and hate it implies. I’m tired of the lack of empathy it suggests. I’m tired of the insecurity and fear it develops.

I have a confession. If I ever read a news story about a drug bust or a domestic violence issue, or if I ever read about a shooting somewhere, I one of the first things I look for is to see if I can make out the race of the offender. Were they white? Black? Hispanic? Middle-Eastern? Asian? If they are a minority, will this make people jump on board and accuse all minorities of the same behavior? If they are white, will it make racists stop and think twice about only looking at the crimes of minorities?

With the recent passing of Barbara Bush, there was a hateful woman who had a lot of bad things to say about her. She spouted off on Twitter, her post went viral and she got a lot of push-back. The news picked it up, and then Barbara Bush defenders started accusing “liberals” of being tolerant of this hateful speech. It grew into a national news story. One woman who happens to be a tenured professor at a university was given a platform, and with that she was handed by the right the mantle to carry for all “liberals.” But the truth is she was just one woman with one opinion. She didn’t speak for “liberals” anymore than I speak for moderate conservatives or Christians. At the end of the day, there is no reason I should have ever even known about her or her opinion.

I was riding my bike the other day when I passed by a playground in my town. I saw an Hispanic man, probably in his early 50s, taking pictures of a child who was probably young enough to be his grandchild. There was a young woman there as well. I assumed she was the little girl’s mother. But as I saw this man I thought about the stereotype of the Hispanic man who is unfaithful, drinks too much, and abandons his family. I hoped that racist people might pass by and see that this man represents most of the Hispanic people I know. The problem is, we are still so segregated in our society, most white people don’t personally know Hispanic people so the only thing they know of them is what they see on the news or in the paper–and these people have no business representing an entire race of people.

About 10 years ago, I remember there was a church in Florida that decided it was going to burn a bunch of Qurans. I think it went viral on YouTube. Then the media picked it up and it caused an international incident so serious that the Secretary of Defense at the time called the pastor to implore him to not do it. The disgusting thing about the story, however, was that the church in question consisted of about 25 members. So a fringe, cultish group of people were all of a sudden representing United States Christians to the Muslim world.

But back to Fred’s piece. What I like so much about it is that their group of leaders looked for and embraced the strength all immigrants bring to our American fabric. The chose to respect those who were coming to us and find a way to help them to be successful Americans. They didn’t plan social programs. They embraced and helped them live out the dream that drove them to come to this country in the first place.

Father, all of this is to say that I need to be more willing to take on that argument in real time, jump into the water that I might not have totally explored yet, and spread your love. Sometimes, the attitude in our country makes it feel like it’s midnight in America, but I hope that we can take even that sentiment and turn it into an opportunity to shine our own lights in the dark of night.

In Jesus’ name I pray,

Amen

 
 

Praying for a Friend

No verse.

Dear God, last night before I went to bed, I got an email from a friend. He told me he had abruptly resigned from his job on Saturday. I don’t know any details. I don’t know if he had had enough and quit, if the leadership over him forced him out, or if it was some sort of combination of the two. What I do know is that I’ve been thinking about him ever since. I woke up briefly in the middle of the night and he and his family, especially his wife and his mother, were the first things on my mind. Then when I woke up again this morning, I thought about all of them again. I also thought about the place he’s leaving and hoped it might go through this process well.

The thing I always thought about and prayed to you about when I woke up didn’t focus on financial provision for them, although I did mention it. I mainly focused on their emotional state. I want you to give them (and by them I mean my friend, his wife, their children, and my friend’s and his wife’s parents) comfort. I want you to give them peace. Give them a sense of your presence, your care, and the assurance that, even though they might not be able to see it now, this will work together for good. I prayed and continue to pray that you will raise up people in all of their lives, including me, who will be your presence to them. Give them peaceful and discerning hearts during this foggy, painful time. In Easter parlance, it might seem like Friday night, but give them faith that Sunday is on it’s way.

Father, I guess what I haven’t prayed until now is that if there is any offense that has been done to my friend or his family, help him to heal from that, to forgive, and to pray for any enemies that he might have. If there are “us versus them” factions, help him to lead those left behind who supported him into reconciliation. Help him and his family to be a complete source of your presence, even in the midst of their own pain, hurt, and anger. Cover my friend and his family. Help them to bathe in the presence of the Holy Spirit. And help them to lead their children well and teach them about you and your goodness through this while still allowing them to be kids and remembering that the kids need to feel the stability that you provide through their parents.

In Jesus’ name I pray,

Amen

 
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Posted by on April 9, 2018 in Miscellaneous

 

Prayin’ for my Preachin’

No verse.

Dear God, today’s the day. I’ve been thinking about and writing about unity and pilgrimages all week. Now I need you to clear my head and help me crystallize it into a 12ish-minute message. I need you to give me what they need to hear. Holy Spirit, I need you to flow over me and through me. I need you to increase and let me decrease.

One of the first things is that I definitely need to let go of my ego. I’ve confessed before, but I confess again now that I was too prideful after my last sermon. I wanted too much praise for me. I sought out compliments. I can be ridiculous.

The interesting thing about sermons is that, as the speaker you hope that you are coming up with something that will 1.) make people think and give them something to talk about while they drive home, 2.) plant a seed that they will always remember and hopefully make them a better person, and 3.) keep all of them from nodding off for at least those 10-15 minutes. Of course, standing up there, the only real-time feedback I get is #3.

Father, be glorified this morning. Help me to tie all of this together so that this group of people will experience something fresh and new as individuals, families, and as a church. And give me what I need out of this experience too.

In Jesus’ name I pray,

Amen

 
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Posted by on April 8, 2018 in Miscellaneous

 

“Hymn of Promise” & I Can Only Imagine (the movie)

“Hymn of Promise”

In the bulb there is a flower; in the seed an apple tree; In cocoons, a hidden promise: butterflies will soon be free! In the cold and snow of winter there’s a spring that waits to be, unrevealed until its season, something God alone can see

There’s a song in every silence, seeking word and melody; There’s a dawn in every darkness, bringing hope to you and me. From the past will come the future; what it holds a mystery, Unrevealed until its season, something God alone can see.

In our End is our beginning; in our time, infinity; In our doubt there is believing; in our life, eternity, In our death a resurrection; at the last, a victory, Unrevealed until its season, something God alone can see.

Dear God, I was struck by this poem/song from a funeral I attended yesterday and I decided to keep the program so I could talk with. You about it later. Now is the later.

My life of faith and following you is such a frustrating process because I seem to be incapable of seeing at any given moment how far I have to go. Maybe that’s for my own good–after all, I’m a firm believer in the concept that you keep me on a need-to-know basis–but my life seems to be a slow process. I read this poem and it reminds me that there is so much that we don’t/can’t see and reassures me that you can.

I just came back from the movie “I Can Only Imagine.” It’s a Christian movie. No offense meant to you, but I usually avoid Christian movies because I too often take issue with their presentation. I saw the preview for this one, however, and decided to take a chance. The song of the same title that is woven through the movie meant a lot to me when I first heard it in church about 16 years ago, and the preview made it look like it would deal with humanity in an honest way. I was right to take a chance. It was good.

For the first third of the movie, I was wondering if the main character’s father was really the protagonist in the story (much like in Star Wars Episodes 1-6, the real protagonist is Anakin Skywalker and not Luke like we are led to believe in Episode 4). He seemed to be the one who was driving the story. But as the movie played out, I started to see a different message. This wasn’t a movie about a terribly sinful man repenting and cleaning up his act (that would have been the kind of lazy writing that keeps me from watching Christian movies). Instead, it was about a son who clung to you as a child, but didn’t figure out how to do it and to be free for another 15 years. He tried. He did a lot of things right on paper. He loved you. He worshipped you. He tried to make a living doing Christian/Godly things. But it took a while before his heart was transformed.

I texted a friend after the movie that we all wish that becoming a mature Christian could be done with a microwave, but the process seems to be more akin to a crockpot. It’s a slow cook. You have to tenderize us and soak us in your juices. Our hardness needs to be broken down. Those are things a microwave just can’t do.

Father, if I’m doing this thing of following and worshipping you right, then the thing that I have to accept is that I am not there yet. I know you better and love others better now than I did five years ago. I hope I will know you even better and love others even more five years from now. I am not home yet, but when I am there, “I can only imagine what it will be like when I walk by your side. I can only imagine what my eyes will see when your face is before me. I can only imagine. Surrounded by your glory, what will my heart feel? Will I dance for you Jesus, or in awe of you be still? Will I stand in your presence, or to my knees will I fall? Will I sing hallelujah? Will I be able to speak at all? I can only imagine. I can only imagine when that day comes, and I find myself standing in the Sun. I can only imagine when all I can do is forever, forever worship you. I can only imagine.”

In Jesus’ name I pray,

Amen

 

A need for repentance and vision

No verse

Dear God, of course, my ego has been getting in the way of my worship of you this week. And I have totally lost sight of how the Holy Spirit helped me to preach this last Sunday. I confess to you that I have wanted and sought praise for my performance on Sunday. I am sorry. I know it was the Holy Spirit, upon whose name I called to help me going into the sermon, that worked and spoke through me. If anyone in the audience heard from you on Sunday, it’s because I had the wisdom to know that I was not capable of preaching to anyone without your power. I am sorry for my insecurity and arrogance.

I was thinking this morning as I woke up about the spiritual desert in our community. There is an unchurched segment of our society that no one seems to be reaching. I hear stories of broken lives every day that will only find healing through you. Their families will only find healing through you. We need some good ideas on how to reach them. I have a couple that of like to float to some people. Help me to be discerning in this.

Father, I work on projects, both vocationally and outside of my work, that address symptoms of a fallen world, but I know that more must be done on a spiritual level. Help me to be the Christian, the man, and the human you need me to be in all areas of my life, starting at home and working my way outward from there.

In Jesus’ name I pray,

Amen

 
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Posted by on March 15, 2018 in Miscellaneous

 

The Weight of Preaching

Dear God, how easy is it to sit in a pew and grumble about the preaching on a Sunday morning? Pretty easy. Then you try to do it.

How easy is it to grumble about customer service at a some place? Then you fail a customer at your place of business and there’s no excuse for your failure.

How easy is it to grumble about social or economic problems in our communities? Then we try to be a part of fixing them and we realize the solutions are complicated and often come at someone else’s expense.

How easy is it to judge other people about how their children behave? Then our own children make choices the disappoint us and we are humbled before you.

Judging and grumbling are a great part of our human condition. I’m preaching this morning at a small church in my town. I’m filling in while the church looks for a new pastor. I’m nervous. I’ve spent more time thinking about this 10- to 15-minute talk than I’ve spent on most of my other talks. Why am I so nervous? Because I feel the weight of this responsibility. I have people in front of me who have actually come to hear something from you. Have I heard you this week? Will my words advance your Kingdom in Fredericksburg? Will they impact a life that is sitting in the audience? Will they be as a clanging gong and accomplish nothing? Will I let you down?

Father, help me to love you with all of my heart and to love everyone in that room today. Be glorified through me. Make a difference in my life today. Start with me. And then do whatever you want through me. Holy Spirit, be my counselor. Preach to me and through me. Guide my heart in real time and use the preparation I did this week to bring Glory to the Father, to Jesus, and to yourself.

In Jesus’ name I pray,

Amen

 
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Posted by on March 11, 2018 in Miscellaneous

 

“Happy are they who bear their share of the world’s pain”

“Happy are they who bear their share of the world’s pain: In the long run they will know more happiness than those who avoid it.”

Dear God, this is a quote from a quote, and I’m not sure it’s something that Jesus really said (maybe it’s a slant on a beatitude), but it makes sense. I’ve described it to others as allowing myself to touch other people’s pain.

Back in 2003 when I first prayed to you about getting out of my bubble and being available to others in need, I didn’t realize how easy and simple my theology was. Everything was much more black and white. I was able to judge others and their decisions pretty easily. If they made decisions and had priorities that were different than mine then they were wrong because my life experience and knowledge were good enough for me to make that evaluation. But then I started to reach out. I started to work understand that there were a lot of people out there who come at life through a completely different lens and set of experiences than I do. I started to make room in my worldview for people who were different from me.

Father, now my danger is in judging those who don’t do this and reach out—for disapproving of the narrow-minded. Help me love everyone and to continue to reach out into uncomfortable areas. I certainly haven’t figured it all out, but I guess the good news is that I know that I’m still lacking.

In Jesus’ name I pray,

Amen

 
 

A Lack of Faith Isn’t the End of the World

No verse

Dear God, is there something poetic about being Ash Wednesday and Valentine’s Day on the same day? As I profess my love to my wife and my children, should I also be taking the opportunity to profess my love to you?

I do my best not to, but I know I take you for granted. I’m sorry for that. You are an amazing God. And I’ll confess that, having grown up Baptist, I don’t have a lot of reverence for Lent the way others do. I’m not even sure I had heard of Lent or knew what it was until I was older and met my wife. But now we are entering into the tragedy and the redemption of the Easter season. Tragedy in the telling of the story of the evil way we treated Jesus 2,000 years ago, but redemption in the way your plan allowed for our failings.

I was thinking this morning about last year at this time and how we had a relative who was dying. In retrospect, he had about seven weeks left to live. I remember praying for him and his wife. I also remember feeling like my faith wasn’t adequate to carry him through or to bring about your healing. But as I thought about it this morning, I think that a lack of faith has been given a bad connotation. Charlatan preachers have shamed people for not having enough faith for their healing. But to think that you would allow my lack of faith to disrupt your plans for the world is foolish. You accounted for Judas’ sin in your plan with Jesus. You can surely account for my lack of faith.

So, Father, I approach you in joy and freedom this morning. I also approach you in worship and love. Be glorified in me through my faithfulness. And please never never let me get in your way.

In Jesus’ name I pray,

Amen

 
 

Pastoral Identity – Accountability

Dear God, I’m on to the last area of Pastoral Identity as defined by the Community of Hope International. This will be my last in the series–Attitude, Ability, Authority, and Accountability. I’m teaching these lessons tonight. I pray that you will help me to do this well, and help the attendees glean something from these lessons that will ripple your presence into the community.

Here are my notes about Accountability from the curriculum:

  • Accountability is closely linked to Authority.
    • Four areas of Accountability:
      • You are accountable to God–exercising your gifts within His calling
      • You are accountable to your community and its leaders.
      • You are accountable to your peers in the community to maintain consistent standards
        • Important to provide clear and regular reports from pastoral visits
      • You are accountable to yourself to grow into your Pastoral Identity

One of the most dangerous things is when I am totally unaccountable. I don’t care how great of a person someone is, zero accountability will lead to bad decisions every time.

Here’s a benign example. A friend of mine decided to hike the Appalachian Trail by himself. He got in shape and trained for months. He was ready to go. But after a few days he abandoned. One of the things he told me was that after a couple of days he found that the decisions he was faced with from time to time (e.g. where to stop to eat, where to camp, etc.) became compromised and he started to lose confidence in them without someone else there to run them by.

That’s a simple one. I can use examples from every walk of life. From running a corporation with no accountability to a board of directors, to living alone and having no one to challenge your decisions, we all need accountability. In the case of this lesson, if I go out in your name but I do not submit to be accountable to others then I can pretty much go off in any direction I want, be it theologically or behaviorally, and do some real damage.

Father, help me to foster accountability where I work. Help me to submit to being accountable to my wife, my board of directors, my coworkers, and my friends.

In Jesus’ name I pray,

Amen

 
 

Pastoral Identity – Authority

Dear God, this is day three of me going through the Pastoral Identity curriculum from the Community of Hope. Of the four parts of Pastoral Identity that they list–Attitude, Ability, Authority, and Accountability–I am up to Authority. From the notes I took about this a few years ago, this part looks a little shorter. Here is the outline I put together regarding Authority:

  • The awareness of being an authority, under authority, and conveying authority is evidence of growth in your Pastoral Identity.
    • As a Caregiver, you represent a community–The Community of Hope International.
      • You are accountable to this community because they give you authority to minister.
      • When you carry God’s Spirit to others you exhibit authority in your ministry.
      • You are accountable to the clergy and laypersons over you.

Of course, this curriculum is part of a program this particular church is using so they set up the ministerial program as the authority as the agency that gives the individual the right to minister in the name of the church. But we don’t lead with Authority. we lead with Attitude because that’s the point from which we have to start. Going back to the lesson on Attitude, if we don’t have the right one for this work then we will abuse our Authority and make ourselves a burden on the person to whom we are ministering.

Father, as I live my own life, I am not empowered by any church to speak or minister in its name. I am a simple lay person who represents you, and any Authority I have comes from you. You give me Authority, but I am also under your Authority (as well as under the Authority of my local church), and because of this I can live out this Authority when I interact with others. To the extent I do this, please help me to do it in the most humble of ways.

In Jesus’ name I pray,

Amen

 
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Posted by on February 5, 2018 in Miscellaneous, Pastoral Identity