John 12:1-8
Six days before the Passover celebration began, Jesus arrived in Bethany, the home of Lazarus—the man he had raised from the dead. A dinner was prepared in Jesus’ honor. Martha served, and Lazarus was among those who ate with him. Then Mary took a twelve-ounce jar of expensive perfume made from essence of nard, and she anointed Jesus’ feet with it, wiping his feet with her hair. The house was filled with the fragrance. But Judas Iscariot, the disciple who would soon betray him, said, “That perfume was worth a year’s wages. It should have been sold and the money given to the poor.” Not that he cared for the poor—he was a thief, and since he was in charge of the disciples’ money, he often stole some for himself. Jesus replied, “Leave her alone. She did this in preparation for my burial. You will always have the poor among you, but you will not always have me.”

Dear God, I have to admit that I never noticed this before, but I think it is interesting. Frankly, it makes me think that I should spend some more time with Mary and Martha and who they were as people. Who said what and when?

Mary and Martha appear to have definite personality types, and I am starting to get the picture that there was something about Mary that irritated left-brained, Type-A personalities, but Jesus liked. He saw a value in Mary’s seeming immaturity and irresponsibility. Martha got mad at her sister for not helping out and Jesus told her in Luke 10:41-42, “My dear Martha, you are worried and upset over all these details! There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her.”

In this story, when Judas gets mad at Mary for wasting the perfume, Jesus says, “Leave her alone. She did this in preparation for my burial. You will always have the poor among you, but you will not always have me.”

So as someone who is more like Martha and even Judas than I am like Mary, what does Jesus have to say to me? I think you probably need me to know that I worry about a lot of stuff and a lot of details, but I allow myself to take my eyes off what what I should be concerned about—you.

I was talking to my wife this morning about fundraising for the nonprofit where I work. Last night, I was at a very expensive private school, and a parent at the school was telling me how they do their fundraising gala every other year. I won’t go into the details, but it is basically evident that the strategy is to get as much money as they can from people by appealing to their egos. Whether it is putting a name on a building or even auctioning off good parking places for 5-figure amounts, people are encouraged to give as a way of increasing themselves. The value given in exchange for the donation focuses on building up the donor.

When I am planning an event for our nonprofit, it is tempting to sometimes fall into that trap. But that’s not what you have called us to do. If I am going to “treat fundraising as ministry” then the value exchange isn’t about appealing to and increasing the donor’s humanness. It is about helping them to decrease as you increase. It is about putting them in touch with a world that is beyond the one that they know. It is about loving them and caring about them. It is about glorifying you. It is about the peace and joy that you give to us when we give of ourselves sacrificially.

Father, all of that sounds very noble, but it is harder to put into practice. Even now, our nonprofit has an event coming up soon and I have a couple of things designed to give donors some recognition (putting their name on a table or listing them in a program). Some of that is necessary and I get that. But help me to focus on what’s important in this and the other areas of my life. When it comes to my children, help me to ignore the things that the world measures as success and to care about, pray for, and nurture the aspects of their lives that will impact their souls. Help me to learn the lesson you want to teach me through Mary’s life.

In Jesus’s name I pray,

Amen